writekaryn

I was in my apartment and a familiar phrase came to mind, one I have uttered many, many times over the years: God, I want a boyfriend.  And then I remembered that I have one.  Finally.  And then I realized that not only do I have a boyfriend but that I have a really, really good boyfriend.

My boyfriend is a student and works to support himself and to pay for school.  And money is tight…so he doesn’t buy me tons and tons of stuff which makes him sad.  I know he wishes he could.  Despite what he can’t do, he does what he can.

My boyfriend is very responsive to my needs.  If I ask for something and he can do it, he will…right away.  He usually doesn’t tell me he’s going to do it.  He just does it.

If he doesn’t open a door for me or something like that, it’s because he forgets, not because he doesn’t want to.  He usually remembers.

He is interesting and entertaining.  He gets what I am talking about.  It’s easy to have fun.  It’s easy to be serious.  It’s easy to be spiritual.  It’s easy to do projects.  It’s easy to be lazy and do nothing.  We get along really well.

The worst problems have occurred in our relationship when I go looking for problems, think I see one, blow it out of proportion and overreact and then discover it wasn’t that big of a deal to begin with.

My boyfriend is honest and can handle honesty.

My boyfriend does not think I am fat, does not look for my flaws, accepts and loves me in spite of them, forgives me when I make mistakes, trusts me even when I don’t trust myself (he’s usually right) and doesn’t need perfection.

My boyfriend is very pure and values that I am as well.  He is very protective without controlling and has made our relationship a priority in his life.

He appreciates me and likes me for who I am.  Neither of us take each other for granted and neither of us have to work very hard to impress the other.  Our favorite things about each other are the things we practically can’t help.

I feel safe and at peace when I am with him.

My boyfriend is physically affectionate, which is very important to me, without being inappropriate.

I am his favorite person on earth.

My boyfriend loves Jesus more than me.

My boyfriend wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me..

My boyfriend is very affirming and reminds me how much he loves me and how beautiful he thinks I am often.  He does not starve me emotionally at all.

He is okay if sometimes we don’t feel as connected.  He loves me not only with his emotions but with his will.  If feelings aren’t as strong, they are still there below the surface and are not very hard to fan into flame.  We connect in so many ways that even if we aren’t all ooey gooey, we still enjoy great conversation, our senses of humor, doing things together.

My boyfriend is proud to be with me.  I am proud to be with him.

My boyfriend always wants to do the right thing, but he’s not a goody two shoes.  He’s just smart and doesn’t have a chip on his shoulder or anything to prove.

He is not sexist, apathetic or emasculated.  He is not threatened by my strength.  He values and appreciates it.

He shares his heart and mind and dreams with me.  He doesn’t push me away.

He takes care of his appearance.

He isn’t a pushover.

He isn’t stingy.  He doesn’t have a problem with overspending money.

He smells good.

He is the perfect height and his eyes radiate kindness.

He enjoys dancing with me.  A lot.  I don’t have to ask him.

He doesn’t run from honest communication or play typical relationship games.  He is kind and dependable and caring and genuine and strong.

My boyfriend has vision for his life and talent.

He likes my family and they like him as well.

He doesn’t refuse help or wise counsel.

He likes kids and animals.  He doesn’t collect cats.

He makes me laugh.

He’s handsome.

He loves spending time with me.

He is great at reassuring me.

He is a wonderful listener.

He thinks I am wise and values what I have to say.  He doesn’t jump to conclusions.  He doesn’t get angry or feel threatened easily.  He treats me like an equal and a valuable human being.

He doesn’t hog the limelight.  He doesn’t hide in the shadows.

He’s a good friend.

He genuinely, sincerely, consistently, deeply loves me.

No one is perfect.  But I have not met many people who I can trust like John.  He is a catch and a keeper.  My life is better with him than it was before.  It feels healthier, happier, stronger.  I feel like more of an adult and more beautiful.  I feel treasured not used.  He’s a prince.